This week, we tackle a listener question that sparked a really honest conversation in our own marriage: How do you pursue your spouse without making them feel like your pursuit is only about sex?
We share openly about the different ways we experience pursuit, the challenges that can come with mismatched desires, and how easy it is to misread each other’s intentions. What one spouse sees as connection, the other may experience as pressure. What feels loving to one person may not feel loving at all to the other.
In this episode, we talk about the importance of understanding how your spouse defines pursuit, communicating expectations clearly, and learning to love your spouse in ways that make them feel seen, valued, and desired. We also discuss the role of flirting, friendship, emotional connection, and physical intimacy in building a healthy marriage.
If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t feel pursued,” or wondered why your efforts don’t seem to connect with your spouse, this conversation will give you practical insights and encourage you to have an important conversation together.
Because the goal isn’t simply to pursue your spouse the way you want to be pursued. The goal is to learn how to pursue them the way they need to be loved.
