In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant address one of the most common sources of frustration in marriage: unmet expectations. Using Valentine’s Day as a relatable framework, they explore how unspoken hopes and “mind-reading” often lead to disappointment rather than connection.
Through a candid and humorous conversation, the Bryants attempt to guess each other’s expectations—from practical needs to physical intimacy—revealing how easily couples can miss the mark when clarity is absent. They unpack the difference between a “want list” and a “reality list,” explain why disappointment is often the result of silence, and offer practical guidance for having intentional conversations before high-pressure moments.
This episode helps couples see how honest communication can deepen both emotional and physical intimacy, reminding listeners that clarity is one of the greatest gifts spouses can give each other.


